I don’t remember the last time I wrote a very meaningful post, so today, I’m going to do just that, or attempt to. This one is dedicated to all mothers out there : my mother, your mother and wonderful women who will become mothers one day :). It’s dedicated to blogger moms that I follow online : Kinzi, 7aki fadi, Maioush, Dino and all women bloggers that shall blossom into moms.
To start off, I shall quote the holy books on this matter.
First, the 5th commandment of the bible’s ten :
||“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Proverbs 31:10-12 and 25-31
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Secondly, I quote The Holy Quran :
(( وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلاَّ تَعْبُدُواْ إِلاَّ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا. إمّا يبلغنّ عندك الكِبر احدهما أو كلاهما فلا تقل
لهما أفٍّ ولا تنهرهما وقل لهما قولاً كريمًا .وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُلْ رَبِّي ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا))
I point out the most crucial part which is : “Wa la taqol lahom offan”. God himself brought it down to even not saying the word “Uff” to your parents.
Thirdly, The Hadith :
1. The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai).
2. 2. A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).
In Arabic :
فقد جاء رجل إلى النبي (صلى الله عليه وآله) فقال: يا رسول الله من أبر؟
قال (صلى الله عليه وآله): أمك.
قال: ثم من؟
قال(صلى الله عليه وآله): أمك.
قال: ثم من؟
قال (صلى الله عليه وآله): أمك.
قال: ثم من؟
قال (صلى الله عليه وآله): أباك
This post in not only about quoting the Holy books, but it is about a much more personal issue that I tend to realize and then quickly forget. My mother, your mother, our mothers should all be put on top of the world, but the reality is far from that.
You, reading this post right now, yes YOU, do you remember the last time you argued or shouted at your mom ?
For those who live with their moms : When was the last time you went up to your mom and kissed her hands ? Kissed her face ? Just gave her a hug and said: “Thank you mom”.
For those away from your moms : When was the last time you picked up the phone and called your mom ? Said I love you to her before you hung up the phone ?
For those whose moms are no longer with us [may God rest their souls] : When was the last time you lit a candle and prayed for her soul ? Simply talked to her and said you missed her ?
I’m not saying I’m the best person around, for God knows I’ve done plenty to anger and upset my mom, but I smile in those moments when I just go up to mom and hug her and tell her I love her. Recently, I’ve had it very rough. I’ve been through so much in the past few months that I finally cracked and called mom and just cried on the phone. It was 5 o’clock in the morning, a few hours before my first exam and I woke her up and spilt my guts, I couldn’t take it anymore. My mom, as kind and caring as she is, calmed me down and told me to go to the exam and everything would be okay very soon. Two days later, my door bell rings and guess who it is :). Without prior warning she’s there yelling “Surprise!”. She spent almost 10 days with me in my small apartment and it was wonderful :). She took care of me and fed me and washed my clothes and cleaned my house and showed me how truly selfless and loving a mother really is. It’s times like those that most count in a person’s life. It’s times like these that I kneel down and pray to God for making mothers the way they are.
I don’t care if you’re not religious, or even if you don’t believe in God. Every single one of us owes his life to his mother, first and foremost for giving birth to you. I won’t discuss issues of abandonment or those who grew up without a mother, but the fact is we’ve all been in a womb before. Every mom knows the pain of 9 months of bearing a child, every mom knows the beauty of giving birth. It’s a holy experience, that no male can ever know or go through.
Honor your mother. Cherish your mother. Tell her you love her. Show her how much she means to you.
If you read this post and found out that you’ve neglected your mom lately, don’t frown, don’t be afraid and don’t sit around doing nothing. As much as moms are loving and caring, they are forgiving. I’ve done plenty of stuff that I regret and will regret for the rest of my life. I’ve done bad things, and I’ve sinned in the eyes of God and in the eyes of every human being. One thing I know is that whatever you’ve done, however much you’ve neglected your mom, shouted at her, argued with her, she will always love and forgive you.
Go up to her now if she’s there, call her up if she’s away or light a candle if she’s gone. Just tell her you love her…
*Dedicated finally to the soul of my friend’s mom, may she rest in peace and may God take care of her just like she took care of her family*